Friday, March 30, 2012

March Madness: It's an Informal Formal Business

I once said that the query is not a business letter. Apparently I confused some people. Because the query letter is a formal introduction of oneself to an unknown but desirable party, and one must impress. But it's not super formal because... well, I'm betting most of you don't get out of your pajamas until the kids come home from school.

By nature of not personally knowing the person you are querying (like cold calling), you must be respectful. Which leads to formal. So, business formal (like business casual, but with better pressed pjs--er, pleats).

But I don't want to talk about queries. I did that in January (if you missed it, this dandy little thingy over here ---> has an archive of past posts, so look for January Query topics).

What I love about this business--the wonderful world of words--is that it is rather casual. At what other sort of conference will you be stopped on the way to the bathroom to be pitched? (by the way, May's topic shall be conferences, but as forewarning, please try to refrain from stopping agents on the way to the bathroom--and don't pitch in the bathroom)

We are all equal parts artists, business men and women, and fan girls (yes, boys, you too). The trick is to balance all three, to know when to bring them out and when to reign them in. Queries, Twitter, phone calls, conferences, blogs, chat boards, etc. You are always being watched, and judged. If you are too formal all the time, seeing every connection only as a means to the top, you won't be well liked. If you're only a fan girl and way too silly all the time, you won't be taken seriously. If you only care about your art, feeling that it will sell itself and therefore you don't have to put any effort into marketing it or yourself, you won't be noticed and probably tossed aside as, again, un-serious.
 
So this is really what I mean when I say that a query isn't a business letter (though it is) or that conferences are really casual (even though we're all conducting business). 

Strike the balance. Play the game. Find a happy harmony. And take a really long nap when you get home.

Happy writing!

6 comments:

Darci Cole said...

I am so glad to know this. I'm a pretty laid back person, and being too "professional" just makes me feel stuffy. It's good to know not everyone expects me to be perfect all the time :-) Thanks Vickie!

J.P. Sloan said...

It's all too easy to cross the line from "professional" to "pretentious". Perhaps the single most valuable marketing skill is knowing how to be "genuine"?

Jamie Wyman said...

"...well, I'm betting most of you don't get out of your pajamas until the kids come home from school."

*looks around for the spy cams* How did you know?!

I was actually just talking about networking the other day on my blog and my do a more specialized post. To me, networking and finding the balance you are talking about, comes down to being genuine, but also being the version of yourself you want to become. If you want to be taken seriously and comfortable with the brightest authors and biggest agents? Be that.

...Even if you're wearing pajamas while sending those emails.

Nicole Mc said...

Why would I get dressed for my kids? Psshhh. Change that to "I'm betting most of you don't get dressed until you have to leave that house."

:)

Martha Ramirez said...

Great advice! As always. Strike that balance.

Aisyah Putri Setiawan said...

Banned complain !! Complaining only causes life and mind become more severe. Enjoy the rhythm of the problems faced. No matter ga life, not a problem not learn, so enjoy it :)

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